My BAD thread

[dwright27 0]

Okay, some of you may or may not know, ive been with the same girl since 8th grade ... which is around 5 - 6 years. Well, we were looking at moving out before i lost my job at the cabinet shop. Well, my income being cut by 2/3rds eliminated that for me. Well, she is still stuck on it, and she REALLY cant afford it. But everytime i try to prove a point to her she thinks im putting her down. she makes $800 - 900 at the most per month and the place she is looking at is $400 a month. she has a car payment of $300 a month, and a cell phone bill of $100 a month. Off the rip thats $800. Her insurance has to be full coverage, which is at least another $100 a month. not to mention her gas, electricity and her water and extra stuff she wants to go out and do. so she is still looking at over $1100 a month and she thinks im trying to put her down by trying to show her the truth of the world. She seems to think i wanna live with my parents for the rest of my life because im 19 and CANT AFFORD to move out, ive graduated high school and have nothing but bills ...... told her, who else has anything that doesnt have bills that is our age unless it was handed to them. She didnthave a response except to call me a mommas boy.

im lost with that situation how me wanting the best for her is putting her down. she can barely afford her car payment and cell phone bill living with me and my parents not paying ANY rent or bills. On top of that we are having other problems. We fight EVERY single day ALL day. She is mad cause i dont wanna go to bed when she does. We went to a "romantic" dinner last night and argued 125% of the time we was there.

IDK what to do. I wanna try and work things out because i feel like the last 6 years would have been just a huge waste of time. SHE HAS THE WORST attitude ive ever seen or encountered. She cares about nothing!!! If she dont like it it doesnt matter, if it doesnt interest her, she dont care. im lost with this as well. IM SOOOOO sick of her. ive actually been kinda trying to get her out my life because she is just so negative and depressed all the time its starting to effect me.

opinions?

[ABXX49 20]

I had a girl like that one time, and I thought that I was happy with her. Ended up breaking up with her and I can't express how much better I am now. She doesn't sound like she's worth it. Sounds like she's the one that is going to hold you back. Take a break at least. Get out, meet new people. I've been single for two years since that girl, but I'd rather be single than have her constantly breaking me down.

[RobClay 20]

Sounds like you don't really have those kind of feelings for her anymore.

I say take a break for awhile and see how it goes.

[Acidburn 10]

dump that bitch

[dwright27 0]

Sounds like you don't really have those kind of feelings for her anymore.

I say take a break for awhile and see how it goes.

no i do. but its her IMO that doesnt.

[dwright27 0]

Ninja Edit: She thinks that the rules and laws dont apply to her. She said if they try to kick her out for not paying rent whe wouldnt leave etc. that she dont care. She doesnt think her car is important to her that if she cant afford to make her car payment then she will just let them take it back/repo it. but i guess it hasnt hit her yet that she lives 30 miles from her job and has NO other means of transportation to get back and forth to pay her OTHER bills

she has been in and out of foster care homes and such her whole life. She was 13 or so when she first got a permanent home with her aunt. Her mom and dad has been in and out of jail there whole life for selling drugs etc. Her mom acts like she is 21 and doesnt have a responsibility in the world. has 5 and 6 different guys through her room every week and LIVES at the bar. while she has a 15 year old son who looks up to me and my family because he sees what is happening. Her mom just had a seizure and a mild stroke that hospitalized her for 4 days i think it was and was told she couldnt drive, and drink or do other stuff that would stress her again. The first day she was outta the hospital she went home, got dressed and headed to the bar. she spent over 6 grand at the bar in a week!!!!!!!! when she ( my gf ) found out she was going to the bar she tried to stop her, and her mom called the cops and said that she didnt want her there again.

Its a fudgeED up family.

Every time i try to talk to she TOTALLY IGNORES me. No matter how calm im being she just wants to yell and say im the one whos getting mad by trying to get her to reason and think logical. i have girls on tap, thats not a problem but i mean 6 years is a good length of time to throw away for some bullchit.

a few more points of mine from the first post i didnt list is that she thinks its okay for her to come how from work and sit on the computer for HOURS on end, but the second i wanna hop on to check my email or chat with some of you guys on here for and hour or so it 100 % wrong and im ignoring her. She thinks its fine for her to have allllll these dudes numbers, but the second a girl give me hers or i get a girls number its totally something wrong. Another thing is everytime i get a text she is alllllll up in my chit trying to figure out who it is etc. but the second i ask her who she is texting its none of my business and she throws an attitude and threatens to do this to the girl or that etc.

i have tried to tell her im done, ive tried kicking her out, but everytime i say this is my house this is where i live she throws up the "you dont pay any bills here this is your parents house" card at me. then my response is yea but if it wasnt for me you wouldnt be here. IDK what her problem is but its a major one. And i HONESTLY think i will be happier with someone else who doesnt consistently threaten to harm me physically, and mentally, and fudge with my truck etc.

she thinks she is such a bad ass. we've gotten into a few fist fights before with me never hitting her but getting the chit beat out of me. Then her running and telling people how she can beat my ass all the time etc. What she dont realize is i could fudge her up so bad if i chose to when she hits me. thinks she is just it.

Edited March 24, 2009 by dwright27

[blue fury 3]

drop her like shes fat

[fritosaregood 0]

Wow, did you follow me around for a day and write this thread about me.

Ive been goin through the same thing, even down to bein 19 living at home, her sayin im a mommas boy. she wants nothin but to move out, but hates goin to work so calls in or just doesnt show up till she gets fired. she thinks im dumb for still living at home, when i have more money for myself and not many bills to pay. [more money for a system], its easier for college to stay at home to, plus all the free food.

but me and her have broke up tons of times. then we both find somebody else for a week or two, then get back together. its good for a few days them back to fighting. but if you can fight and make up its a good thing.

[3stagevtec 2]

get out of that relationship.. she sounds like too much trouble, not worth spending your life with kinda person..

[Quentin Jarrell 671]

You're only 19. Don't put up with her BS. Would you rather have "wasted 6 years or stay with her and be miserable for no telling how much longer. How long has she lived with you and your parents? How long has she been pissed? It probally is not just the matter of bed time but the fact she feels uncomfortible living under the same roof as your parents. My girlfriend lived with me and my parents for about 3 years. And we fought a lot more than we do now. I can't help you with the fact she can't do simple math and figure out she can't afford to move out. But I have been with my girlfriend for 8 years and have lived with her for 6. I can tell you women do some carzy $hit we will never understand. And I don't care what women you are with they ARE going to drive you crazy.

[dwright27 0]

Wow, did you follow me around for a day and write this thread about me.

Ive been goin through the same thing, even down to bein 19 living at home, her sayin im a mommas boy. she wants nothin but to move out, but hates goin to work so calls in or just doesnt show up till she gets fired. she thinks im dumb for still living at home, when i have more money for myself and not many bills to pay. [more money for a system], its easier for college to stay at home to, plus all the free food.

but me and her have broke up tons of times. then we both find somebody else for a week or two, then get back together. its good for a few days them back to fighting. but if you can fight and make up its a good thing.

SHE CALLS IN AS WELL after she goes out during the week with her friends who dont have REAL jobs!!!! and they have been ding massive layoffs. been trying to get her to see they go by performancen AND attendance. she says they wont lay her off and she dont care if they do.

she gets mad when i stay at the shop uber late working on the truck and the build. we have broken up tons of times. She was 16 dating a 23 year old who was living with her, and she was still fudgeing me and coming over to my house behind his back. i whooped **** fools ass a few times lol ..... then we got back together because she would try to fight every girlfriend i had and would rub in it that we were still fudgeing etc ...... when it barely happened!!!

where were split up for like a year.

Edited March 24, 2009 by dwright27

[dwright27 0]

You're only 19. Don't put up with her BS. Would you rather have "wasted 6 years or stay with her and be miserable for no telling how much longer. How long has she lived with you and your parents? How long has she been pissed? It probally is not just the matter of bed time but the fact she feels uncomfortible living under the same roof as your parents. My girlfriend lived with me and my parents for about 3 years. And we fought a lot more than we do now. I can't help you with the fact she can't do simple math and figure out she can't afford to move out. But I have been with my girlfriend for 8 years and have lived with her for 6. I can tell you women do some carzy $hit we will never understand. And I don't care what women you are with they ARE going to drive you crazy.

lived with me and my parents for going on 2 years i would say.

we havent EVER got along lol.

[jonbearsmt 919]

dont do it.

[Acidburn 10]

what the fuck is wrong with you two?

If you actually think being treated like that is acceptable then maybe you do deserve to be with such a worthless sack of shit

[Quentin Jarrell 671]

Just find you a nice rich college chick and move in with her

[dwright27 0]

Just find you a nice rich college chick and move in with her

:bigclap:

[dwright27 0]

dont do it.

do what?

[KU40 173]

I agree, this girl sounds like poison. I know it sucks to seem to have wasted all that time, but you can't let that decide for you. If you think about it, what are your options? You only have two, and that is accept the loss of 5-6 years, or else have a loss of 80 years, aka the rest of your life if you keep trying to put up with this. It seems as if you have made a valiant effort to help her, and you really, really don't want her dragging you down with her financial problems, especially in this economy. Unfortunately it seems as though she's one of those people who really has to fail in order to learn the lesson, and you really don't want to be there when it happens because it'll most likely ruin your credit as well when you try to help her out.

[dwright27 0]

I agree, this girl sounds like poison. I know it sucks to seem to have wasted all that time, but you can't let that decide for you. If you think about it, what are your options? You only have two, and that is accept the loss of 5-6 years, or else have a loss of 80 years, aka the rest of your life if you keep trying to put up with this. It seems as if you have made a valiant effort to help her, and you really, really don't want her dragging you down with her financial problems, especially in this economy. Unfortunately it seems as though she's one of those people who really has to fail in order to learn the lesson, and you really don't want to be there when it happens because it'll most likely ruin your credit as well when you try to help her out.

fudge that, im not helping her out after she falls on her face.

i tried to tell her.

[jonbearsmt 919]

dont do it.

do what?

this relationship! moving in togather... fucking any of it.......

its harsh but cut your losses and boss on.

[KU40 173]

You seem like a nice guy that keeps getting stepped on. You gotta stand up and say screw it. Change the locks on your house if you have to, seriously call the police if she tries getting in or whatever. If she has stuff at your house, tell her to move it or else you're putting it on the lawn. Then do it. Drop that girl, man. That's not love.

[ncacoates 104]

time to move on man. simple as that.

[dwright27 0]

dont do it.

do what?

this relationship! moving in togather... fudgeing any of it.......

its harsh but cut your losses and boss on.

i honestly dont wanna move in with her. i cant afford and chit cant understand that and thinks i wanna be a mommas boy and live with the forever.

i dont wanna be in an EVEN bigger bind than i already am financially. hell my mom pays most of my truck payment because when i lost my job i had to step down to a lower paying job that i can barely afford to pay gas and eat lunch with a month much less totally pay my truck payment. Im sorry my truck and ride is more important then she is to me ATM.

[- Nickelz N Dimez - 0]

Look bro I have the same problem, But ive only been with my chick for only a year now. I need to move but I cant. It feels so good to be free and out and about all day long without since I've been ignoring her for the past few days. But then when it comes down to it and im alone I get so lonely without her. I just need to man up and just let her go like you should, but you cant because you love her. But when you say your gonna do it and you see her with other dudes or just think about her it kills you.. I know what your going through.

[dwright27 0]

ive been talking to this girl

for some time now and she seems to be pretty in to me. she isnt a bitch ( yet ) and seems pretty kewl.